No Tolerance for White Supremacists. Ever.

For this installment of Gothic Charm School, dear Snarklings, the Lady of the Manners is going to get political. Wait, no, that's the wrong word, because treating people with respect and not being a horrible excuse for a human isn't, and shouldn't be political.

A Slight Reprise of the Never-Ending Goth Debate

As some of you may remember, Snarklings, a few posts ago the Lady of the Manners took on The Never-Ending Goth Debate. There was good discussion in the comments, and the Lady of the Manners thanks you all for keeping things civil! Of course, that post prompted a small flurry of email, and while the Lady of the Manners doesn't want to keep circling back to the What Is Goth? topic, she does want to address two letters that asked about the boundaries and outline of goth.

The Never-Ending Goth Debate

It is time, Snarklings, for the Lady of the Manners to delve back into a topic that is resurrected wherever goths gather. Well, perhaps "resurrected" is the wrong term, because the Lady of the Manners is very aware that this topic has never died. Ever. This fight discussion probably lurched forward at the very instant the subculture coalesced out of the shadows: what is goth?

Stereotype Technology: Romantigoth!

Snarklings across various social media sites have requested Stereotype Technology posts that focus on specific substyles of goth fashion, with helpful hints for searching out the wardrobe pieces. Never one to shy from window shopping for goth clothing, the Lady of the Manners decided to start with the style she favored back in the 90s: Romantigoth! Romantigoth is different from vampire goth fashion or Victorian goth fashion; it’s a subtle distinction, but it’s there. All three styles would be good for midnight picnics or visiting the Addams Family, but the Victorian side is more prim and funereal, while vampire goth tries for an undercurrent of ”Yes, I have a fabulous velvet-lined coffin hiding in the depths of my ancestral castle”.

You Don’t Have to Be Neurotypical

As the Lady of the Manners has mentioned before, she is frequently humbled by some of the heartfelt, heartsore letters that Snarklings have written to Gothic Charm School. And the Lady of the Manners often worries that she isn't really able to help; she's a well-meaning Internet Auntie, not a professional. But even with those concerns, she IS determined to help as much as she's able, because that's what everyone should do. Sometimes the help is focused on music, clothing, and books, and sometimes it's focused on reassuring people that they are a goth. And sometimes, it's a little bit of both.